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Where are my Ladies at?
Ladies hear me out, you can never have a masculine aura and expect a man to treat you like a woman. By masculine aura what I’m talking about is that you can’t think and behave like a man and expect a man to treat you like a woman because you have a pair of boobs on your chest. Men are naturally providers and protectors. If you have a man in your life, nothing will give him greater joy, fulfillment and satisfaction than you respecting him and allowing him to be a man. Allow that man to provide for you to his ability. Do as that man says because he’s trying to protect you. Respect him unconditionally. Do that and trust me, he might as well send us off to the moon so he gives you the world. Men naturally have to do things to prove themselves. You can tell him it’s alright but if he hasn’t done enough to prove himself to himself, he’ll still be on the hunt for more. If you’re challenging a man as a woman, he will see your curves but he can never perceive you as a woman. To him you’re competition with a pair of boobs that he has to beat. All is fair in love and war so he’ll do what he must to beat you and establish his dominance, even if it means hurting you in the process.
Going 50\50 with a man, in my beliefs, is undermining his abilities to provide for you. That’s an indirect blow to his pride and ego, that man is never going to really feel free around you because you’re like a dormant volcano. A ticking time bomb. A threat basically. Drafting up a duty roaster is *the* biggest form of disrespect because now you’re saying that he also has to be a woman. Believe me, that man will leave you for a more respectful woman. This is all if the guy is a high value man and not these spaghetti wannabe men boys. With those ones you can do that whole 50\50 thing and share chores but know he has another girl on the side who treats him like a king.
Are you independent?
Thing is, if you want to be an independent woman, go be that and leave men alone in peace. Men don’t even like you because you take away their rights by nature to be your hero. You won’t let a man change your car tire, won’t let him provide for you, won’t let him be a man really. Men aren’t sex toys and they aren’t emotional whoopie cushions. Leave men alone for the women who know how to change their car tire but won’t because they have a man, the women who’ll be submissive and nurturing, the feminine women who’ll let men be men. Pick a side sis. Life is not Hannah Montana, you can never get the best of both worlds.
*Never be shy about these four things:*
- Old parents\guardians – you are what you are today because of them.
- Less privileged friends – friendship has no status.
- Old clothes – your talent is not defined by what you wear.
- Living a simple life – success can never be judged by appearances.
We’re all concerned and super worried about red flags 🚩. How to pick them out, spotting them, what they mean and how to avoid them. Often times this laser focus on red flags makes us lose sight of the green flags. Here’s some
GREEN FLAGS TO LOOK OUT FOR IN YOUR PEOPLE:
🟢 *Their presence is calming* – it could be all you need to get through a tough situation.
🟢 *They listen without judgement* – never underrate the value of people who genuinely hear you when you speak.
🟢 *They respect your needs* – if it’s space you need, they will respect that without imposing anything but they will check in on you from time to time.
🟢 *They are supportive* – no matter what you’re going through, they will be there every step of the way in whatever way they can cheering you on.
🟢 *You don’t have to try around them* – their aura is so inviting and you don’t have to put on a facade or try to be something you’re not. You can freely and safely just be you around them.
🟢 *They make an effort* – everyone has their list of priorities and things they ought to be doing but these people will make an effort to support and be there for you. Oftentimes at their own expense.
🟢 *They make you laugh* – you can count on them for a laugh and a genuine smile, especially when you need it.
🟢 *They respect your opinion* – they will not gaslight you into making a decision against your will but they will respect your opinions, even if they do not agree with it.
🟢 *They are truthful* – they are not going to allow you to make the wrong decisions blindly. They will be honest with you, even if it hurts and you don’t want to hear it.
🟢 *They are kind* – not just with you but with everyone around them. If they are only kind to you and mean to everyone else… 🚩
20 WAYS TO RESPECT YOURSELF
💎Stop looking for people who are not looking for you.
✨Stop begging.
💎Stop saying more than necessary or what is required.
✨When people disrespect you, confront them immediately. Do not hold it in or keep it inside.
💎Don’t eat other people’s food more than they eat yours.
✨Reduce how often you visit people, especially when they do not reciprocate.
💎Invest in yourself, make yourself happy and increase your worth.
✨Stop entertaining gossip about other people.
💎Think before you talk. 80% of how people value you is what comes out of your mouth.
✨Always look your best. Dress how you want to be addressed.
💎Be an achiever and focus on your goals.
✨Respect your time.
💎Walk away from relationships, spaces and people who make you feel disrespected and invalid.
✨Learn to spend money on yourself. You show people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.
💎Be scarce sometimes, you shouldn’t always be available.
✨Give more than you receive.
💎Don’t go where you’re not invited and when invited, do not overstay your welcome.
✨Treat people exactly how they deserve to be treated.
💎Eat healthy and exercise regularly.
✨Be the best at what you do.
How you Market yourself?
Marketing is very important. How you present yourself. How you dress yourself. How you carry yourself. The impression that you leave people with. All of this is very important.
Do not be silly and hop onto the ‘they will love me for me’ trend. Yes, you will be accepted as you are but the true question is will you be valued as you’re worth? The way you present yourself is a reflection of how you perceive your worth and how much you value yourself. Before people get to hear what you have to say, they will see what you look like. This will already predetermine how they treat you.
The book shouldn’t be judged by it’s cover but unless or until somebody who knows its content comes along, everyone will handle it according to the condition of the cover. How you market yourself matters. The way you present yourself communicates a message before you speak.
Package yourself well. Present yourself better. Market yourself according to your value.
GROW A SPINE AND GET YOUR POWER BACK!!!
There has never been anything wrong with being a kind person. Mother Theresa won a Noble Peace Prize because of the goodness of her heart. Dorcas was brought back to life after she had died because of her generosity. Get this, being a kind hearted person with good intentions is not wrong at all. Even in this world, especially in this world we’re living, there is nothing wrong with it. If anything there’s a short supply of such people.
However, there is everything wrong with being a pushover. There is everything wrong with being a doormat, EVERYTHING! There is everything wrong with not having boundaries. Especially not having boundaries!! Being kind does not mean you let people run all over you. Having good intentions is never permission for people to take advantage of you.
Tell me something, how does it feel knowing a thief stole from you because your lack of boundaries gave them permission to? Stole your joy, peace, happiness, health, confidence, self-awareness and good mental being simply because you lack boundaries? Let’s not even get into other things.
*GROW A SPINE AND GET YOUR POWER BACK‼️*
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